In episode #7 of Guys with Feelings, Jaemin and Gabe welcome Peter Krouse to discuss becoming a software engineer in just 9 months, conscious dog parenting, ethical men’s fashion, the virtues of slow reading, and more!Continue reading
So, you already know that I think everyone and their mom should see a therapist.
It’s self-growth on steroids! I’d recommend it to EVERYBODY.
But then the question becomes, “HOW do I find a therapist? A badass, awesome one?”
And unfortunately, that’s a more difficult question to answer.
Finding an awesome therapist is more complicated than finding an awesome mechanic. It’s not just about technical skill and experience – it’s about finding someone who JIBES with you.
Just like dating, it’s about finding the right fit. The right chemistry. Someone you click with. Someone who gets you.
And just like dating…it may take a few tries to find the right match.
But fear not, the search process is not as scary as it seems! To make it easier, I’ve broken it down into 8 simple steps.Continue reading
If I could give one piece of advice to everyone, it would be to work with a therapist.
And yes, I do mean EVERYONE.
Most people think therapy is just for people who are “messed up” or in “crisis”. Sorry, that’s not how I see it at all.
Here’s how I view it: “Therapy is self-growth on steroids.”
And it’s been one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself.
Keep watching to hear more of my thoughts…
Update: After posting this video, tons of people have been asking me exactly HOW to find an awesome therapist. So I wrote up a guide here: How to Find an Awesome Therapist (in 8 Steps)
Now you’ve got no excuse!
I’ve been reading “Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert and one idea of hers has been really resonating with me (enough that it’s now plastered across the top of my daily planner):
“You must learn how to become a deeply disciplined half-ass.”
Let me explain.
According to Gilbert, the two worst things you can be as a creative is lazy and a perfectionist.
Well shit, that’s me.
The lazy part is obvious. If you want to create, you have to be disciplined. You have to show up every day and do the work. Even if it’s not easy or fun. Whether or not you’re feeling inspired. You gotta sit your ass down and put in the effort.
But the perfectionist part, is just as important, if not as obvious.Continue reading
The way people talk about Burning Man, you’d think it was heaven on earth.
A place where only magical things happen and if you’re not feeling wondrous and euphoric and oh so sparkly at every single moment, then there’s something wrong with you.
Sorry, but that ain’t true.
Burning Man can be a place of magic and ecstatic highs, for sure. But it’s just as much a home to lows, frustration, and loneliness as well.
And that’s what makes it so special.Continue reading
Next time you’re feeling down, don’t run from it. Don’t try to change it. Don’t fight it.
Lean into it.
Feel what it wants to express and GO there. Pick up the guitar and play a sad song. Watch a bittersweet movie. Try writing a shitty poem.
Embrace the down. Sink into the beauty of it. Move WITH it and let it express itself, IN and AS you.
But don’t wallow in the stories. Don’t get trapped in the, ‘You’re broken’s, and the, ‘What’s wrong with you’s. That’s a prison.
But the actual feelings themselves… The present sensations. The energetic aliveness. That’s a portal.
Dive into the down. Use it as a doorway. And let it open yourself up to more of you.