My entire life, I was convinced that there was something wrong with me. That I was broken.
That I was unable to love.
Relationship after relationship, I struggled to reciprocate the affection of my partners.
It seemed the more they opened up to me, the more it shut me down. The more they moved towards me, the more I pulled away.
Where my heart was supposed to be, I just felt a cold numbness.
I looked around and it felt like everyone else was falling in love with ease. Opening their hearts. Living out their fairy-tale romances.
But try as I might, that realm seemed locked off to me. Nope, I was broken. Fucked up. Alone. And there was nothing I could do about it.
Until I came across the concept that changed everything.
I’m a huge fan of podcasts.
Every car ride, every walk, every search for a parking spot just becomes another excuse to listen to more podcasts.
I mean, I dig podcasts so much, I even started my own.
So I thought it might be interesting to list some of my favorite podcasts that I’ve listened to in the past year or so. They’re divided into a few categories, with standout episodes highlighted. And I also share my favorite podcast app.
For most of my life, exercise was something I did mainly for it’s shallow benefits.
Yeah, I know it’s supposed to be “good” for you and all that jazz…but really, I just wanted to look decent with my shirt off.
Hey, you know you do too!
But recently, I’ve made a big shift in how I view exercise – and it’s made a world of difference:
These days, I workout to FEEL good rather than LOOK good.
It sounds insignificant but it’s made a huge impact on my life.
I’ve spent the past 2 years exploring community living. First in an OM house, then a 38-person mansion, and now, in a 12-person Haight-Ashbury co-op.
And it’s made one thing abundantly clear to me: community is one of our deepest, most foundational needs – and the one thing most of us are missing.
In episode #7 of Guys with Feelings, Jaemin and Gabe welcome Peter Krouse to discuss becoming a software engineer in just 9 months, conscious dog parenting, ethical men’s fashion, the virtues of slow reading, and more!
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So, you already know that I think everyone and their mom should see a therapist.
It’s self-growth on steroids! I’d recommend it to EVERYBODY.
But then the question becomes, “HOW do I find a therapist? A badass, awesome one?”
And unfortunately, that’s a more difficult question to answer.
Finding an awesome therapist is more complicated than finding an awesome mechanic. It’s not just about technical skill and experience – it’s about finding someone who JIBES with you.
Just like dating, it’s about finding the right fit. The right chemistry. Someone you click with. Someone who gets you.
And just like dating…it may take a few tries to find the right match.
But fear not, the search process is not as scary as it seems! To make it easier, I’ve broken it down into 8 simple steps.